Major surgery is hard to overcome

Q. I had surgery a few months ago, and I don't like what's happening to me. I've been depressed and short-tempered, and that isn't like me.

Have you talked honestly with your doctors about this? Sometimes, I understand, the medication a person takes after major surgery needs to be adjusted to avoid side effects like this.

Major surgery is a shock to anyone's system. Elsewhere in your letter you acknowledge that you have always been a very active person, and you find it frustrating not to be able to do everything you once did. But it takes time to recover; a surgeon once told me that it can take up to a year.

Give your body the time and rest it needs to recover. Our bodies are very complicated, and what happens to one part of our body affects every other part. In my own experience, trying to do too much after a major surgery or illness slows the healing process.

God is with you, and his love surrounds you just as much now as it did a year ago. Draw closer to Christ each day, thanking and trusting him more and more – even when you don't feel like it.