Gender specific public bathrooms are again under scrutiny in our city. A very small percentage of people feel restricted because they must go to a bathroom of a gender they don’t identify with.
The crux of their arguments:
1.) They are uncomfortable in their own gender facility as they don’t “feel” like that gender.
2.) No harm would be caused by them using the bathroom of their choice.
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3.) There are gender neutral bathrooms, but they are in short supply.
4.) The root of the bathroom argument is prejudice, hatred and inequality.
Many of them frame the discussion solely on the last point. I reject that premise.
Argument one is that the transgender person is uncomfortable in his biologically correct bathroom. Let’s flip it – many more people are uncomfortable with someone of the opposite sex in a public bathroom. Logical extension: If comfort is the issue, then bathrooms should stay as they are.
Argument two is that no harm is incurred by allowing transgender people to enter the bathroom of choice. This is not true. Many (if not most) transgender people are readily recognized as the gender every cell carrying their DNA proclaims them to be. Families are hurt. No responsible mother sends her daughter into the men’s room for this very basic childhood safety rule.
Argument three is that gender neutral bathrooms are in short supply. Let’s flip it: Most studies show fewer than three in every thousand people in the USA are transgender.
Argument four is the most troubling. Our society is increasingly moving from common sense accommodation of differences to a push for radical acceptance and approval of lifestyles that the vast majority of people do not condone.
It is not hateful to say a male should use a designated male bathroom because he is male, any more than it is hateful to say a horse is a horse. This is science. It is fact.
DNA is remarkably complex, but what we’re born with is distinctly male or female. An individual may experience true emotional and physical distress in that scientific fact, but a man cannot become a woman, nor a woman a man, no matter how much he or she desires it. Every cell of a human body declares this truth.
Transgender people are making a choice to deny their genetic makeup. No one is forcing them to become transgender. Choices have consequences. A handicapped person didn’t choose his handicap. No one chooses their skin color. Inclusion is critical in these sorts of situations where accessibility should not be denied based on unchangeable characteristics. However, we are under no obligation to pander to people’s choices that create discomfort for them.
Vicky Kaseorg is a Charlotte resident and author. She is active in counseling conflicted mothers to choose life over abortion with the Charlotte Cities4Life ministry.