Donald Trump, who defied every political rule and prevailed to win his party’s nomination, last week took on perhaps the most sacred political rule of all: Never attack a Gold Star family. Not just because it alienates a vital constituency but because it reveals a shocking absence of elementary decency and natural empathy for the most profound of sorrows – parental grief.
Why did Trump do it? It wasn’t a mistake. It was a revelation. It’s that he can’t help himself. To understand Trump, you have to grasp the General Theory: He judges every action, every pronouncement, every person by a single criterion – whether or not it/he is “nice” to Trump.
Vladimir Putin called him brilliant (in fact, he didn’t, but that’s another matter) and a bromance is born.
House Speaker Paul Ryan criticizes Trump’s attack on the Gold Star mother – so Trump mocks Ryan and praises his primary opponent. On what grounds?
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He’s “a big fan of what I’m saying, big fan,” attests Trump.
You’re a fan of his, he’s a fan of yours. And vice versa. Treat him “unfairly” and you will pay.
We all try to protect our own dignity and command respect. But this is beyond narcissism.
I used to think Trump was an 11-year-old schoolyard bully. I was off by about 10 years. He has an infantile hunger for approval and praise, a craving that can never be satisfied. The world outside himself has value – indeed exists – only insofar as it sustains and inflates him.
Most politicians seek approval. But Trump lives for adoration. He doesn’t even try to hide it, boasting about his crowds, his standing ovations, his TV ratings, his poll numbers, his primary victories. The latter are most prized because they offer empirical evidence of how loved he is.
Prized also because, in our politics, success is self-validating. A candidacy that started out as a joke, as a self-aggrandizing exercise in xenophobia, struck a chord in a certain constituency and took off. The joke was on those – myself included – who believed he was not a serious man and thus would not be taken seriously.
Winning validated him. Which brought further validation in the form of endorsements from respected and popular Republicans.
But this may all now be jeopardized by the Gold Star gaffe. (Remember: A gaffe in Washington is when a politician inadvertently reveals the truth, especially about himself.) It has put a severe strain on the patched-over relationship between the candidate and Republican leadership and Republican regulars.
Trump’s greatest success – normalizing the abnormal – is beginning to dissipate. When a Pulitzer Prize-winning liberal columnist (Eugene Robinson) and a major conservative foreign policy thinker and former speechwriter for George Shultz under Ronald Reagan (Robert Kagan) question Trump’s psychological stability, indeed sanity, there’s something going on (as Trump would say).
The dynamic of this election is obvious. As in 1980, the status quo candidate for a failed administration is running against an outsider. The stay-the-course candidate plays his/her only available card – charging that the outsider is dangerously out of the mainstream and temperamentally unfit to command the nation.
In 1980, Reagan had to do just one thing: pass the threshold test for acceptability. He won that election because he did. You may not like all his policies, but you could safely entrust the nation to him.
Trump badly needs to pass that threshold. If character is destiny, he won’t.