9 steps to living a more luscious, self-caring life from a Charlotte life coach

Charlotte life coach Sarah Olin had a very good reason for naming her coaching business “Luscious Mother.”

In her earlier years of coaching, she was talking about all of the things she wanted in her life. “All of the yummy, delicious stuff,” as she refers to it. Her coach at the time asked her: Who would you need to be to create all that?

Her response: A luscious mother, with an amazing, delicious, wonderful life. So that’s what she has become.

“People hire a coach to move their life forward,” Olin said. “To see things in a new and different way. They’ve got to want to change.”

Olin’s primary focus is on working mothers (see the end of this article for details and a deal on her next workshop), but she recently offered insight to help all of us lead a more luscious, self-caring life.

Here are nine steps I walked away with:

(1) Be aware of the needs you may be neglecting as a working person.

“Connection. Community. Fun. Spirit. And you. … You’re missing on your to-do list.”

(2) Remember how amazing you are.

A lack of reality can also get in the way of the successful, Type A person who is really hard on himself or herself.

“They forget how amazing they are.”

(3) When you’re ready to create change, find the right accountability partner.

Note: The right source of accountability is not necessarily your significant other.

“A good accountability partner is someone that you respect almost to the point of fear. Or someone that you’re paying. … It’s got to be a worthy opponent. Someone who’s going to hold you to it, who’s up to big things.”

(4) Let go of humility and recognize your strengths.

“Someone gave humility a good name and I think that’s f*cking bullsh*t. I’m disgusted by humility.”

Recognize your accomplishments. Then: “Own it. Talk about it.”

(5) Therefore: Claim your f*cking greatness and power.

“It’s practice. Everything is practice.”

It’s also willingness.

“That might be the most important thing, is being willing to see something differently. Being willing to do something differently.”

(6) Don’t waste time hating where you live.

For example: “Charlotte is Charlotte. We make up everything else. We can say it has this many people, it has this many buildings, there are so few facts, the rest we make up. It’s how we relate to it. If you’re looking for a crack in the floor, you’re going to find it.”

(7) If you think your sex life is bad, well, make it better.

How? “Prioritizing it. Back to willingness, wanting it. Relating to yourself as a sexual person.”

Don’t wait until you’re 10 pounds thinner, or undergo some other change.

“Can you be sexy right now? Can you be perfect the way that you are?”

(8) And stop worrying about work/life balance. It doesn’t exist.

“There’s no such thing as work/life balance. It’s about chemistry and what works for you. … If you don’t like it, change it. And I’m not suggesting quitting your job or anything like that, but there are ways to look at it through a new lens.”

(9) Do the work you need to do to create change for yourself, or to change your perspective.

“Do something. Stop complaining. It’s up to you.”

Coming up: Summer of (Self) Love, June 2-4

This is a three-day luscious fest at The Ivey in Charlotte where mothers can connect with like-minded mothers and create a life they love.

Register: You lucky C5 readers get a discount (select “CharlotteFive” from the drop down menu on the sign up sheet). Click here.

More details: Olin, founder of Luscious Mother: Life Coaching for Moms, decided to create an event for moms that was all about them, reinventing how they speak about and experience motherhood, marriage, sex and self-care. Women will connect with themselves and other amazing women while taking a deeper look at what’s missing for them. They’ll learn how to take back motherhood. It’s part of the lifelong journey to honor their experience as a woman and mother.

Photos: Courtesy of Sarah Olin

This story was originally published April 24, 2017 at 10:00 PM with the headline "9 steps to living a more luscious, self-caring life from a Charlotte life coach."