Things to do

4 places to make a face-to-face connection – love or otherwise

Last weekend, I grabbed take-out Pad Thai with my girlfriend, Lara. When she stepped outside, a flushed woman behind the bar looked around and murmured,  “I hope this isn’t too much of a personal question, but where did you meet your girlfriend?”

Like any good millennial, I told her Tinder. We had both swiped right.

Our first date was based on a lie — I said I planned to go to Plaza Midwood by myself anyway and Lara should join me. In reality, if it wasn’t for her, I would have stayed on my couch snacking on nachos that night.

//><!--This woman was not having my tawdry, dating-app-based love story. Her friend needed to dump her no-good girlfriend and meet new people.//--><!

“Where can I take her?” she begged, holding pen and paper instead of a phone to record my answers.

All right, I said, leaning in closer. Here’s where you gotta go if you want to make a face-to-face connection.

(1) Flick Chicks and Game Gals

Go here if you’re a lady-loving-lady who’s into playing games that don’t involve crushing candy on an electronic device. Cathode Azure is usually a gay man utopia, so it’s thrilling that every Tuesday is ladies night.

There’s no cover, plenty of drink specials and games are all socially-oriented – pool, corn hole and Cards Against Humanity. Ask that hottie to play a round or two of pool. Your flirt game is up to you.

(Cathode Azure Club, 1820 South Boulevard, Suite 106, Charlotte, 28203. No cover. Tuesdays at 7:30 p.m.)

(2) Charlotte Speed Dating for Singles

This Meetup group says it has people meet in a “fun, organized setting,” which delights my Post-It-note-loving heart. They do separate events for returning and new singles, so you’re guaranteed to meet new people each time.

//><!--The organizer, Cory, divides people by age – 20s, 30s, 40s and 50s. You’ll have to pay to speed date and the location will change.//--><!

(Charlotte Speed Dating for Singles,, Charlotte. See website to sign up for more details.)

(3) Stonewall Sports – Charlotte

Formally known as Stonewall Kickball, this group is expanding to include volleyball, bowling and dodgeball leagues.

Founded last year, most of the people in the league are LGBTQ. There’s a sliding scale of relationship status overall – single, coupled, and complicated.

The Bar at 316, owned by the delightful Jeffrey Edwards, has a BBQ after the Sunday games.

(Stonewall Sports – Charlotte)

(4) #Instabeerupclt

This combination of social-media-meets-real-life is the brainchild of Vintage Charlotte owner Amy Herman and marketing guru Corri Smith. They decided over a beer to bring people in their late 20s and 30s together for a casual cold one.

The next soiree is July 30 at Heist, where the first 150 beers will be free courtesy of the God Save the Queen City Music Festival. Be there or be Instagram square.

Photo courtesy of #instabeerupclt.

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Joanne Spataro  @lookitsjoanne