“Mythbusters”: Charlotte dating edition. 4 myths, debunked
When you’re single, people are always excited to give you what they believe are extraordinarily helpful tips on dating. Some who voice their thoughts are actively dating, too. Others are people like your parents, who used to date in 1975 when it was way less complicated, so just chill out mom and dad I’ll get married eventually, OK?
Regardless of who’s offering their insight, there are a lot of myths floating around about dating and how to do it properly. As a result, I’m here to do my own version of “Mythbusters.”
It’s the Charlotte dating edition. Here’s what I’ve got:
Myth: Going to a super fancy restaurant is the ideal date.
Fact: The presence of lobster tails isn’t the only thing you should focus on when planning a date. The best dates incorporate shared interests.
If you bonded over your love of any and all types of desserts, stop at Elizabeth Creamery or grab something at Amelie’s.
If you’re both beer snobs, plan to do a little brewery hopping. Are you more Sycamore or Heist? Do your preferences line up?
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Bonus: These options are way more affordable than a five star restaurant.
Myth: The delicious food is all that matters.
Fact: You don’t want to be nodding like a bobblehead because the food’s amazing but the restaurant is so loud you can’t hear your date tell a story that seems important. Also, atmosphere can prompt discussion and ease nerves.
Hit up somewhere with a unique vibe like The Cellar at Duckworth’s and boom! Instant conversation starter. A place like Good Food on Montford is smart because you can chat about which dishes you liked best as you pass and share.
Myth: The trendiest place in town is always the best place.
Fact: Despite the popular belief that dinner is a risky first-date move, I actually think it can work well. However, you have to choose the venue wisely.
I once went on a first date where we arrived at the restaurant and learned there would be a two hour wait. “I went to journalism school. I can talk to anyone,” I reassured myself. In reality, we blew through all of the topics of conversation I had prepared before we even sat down.
Needless to say, when the waitress asked if we cared for dessert roughly 39 hours later, she was met with a resounding, “No, thanks!” from both parties. Lesson learned.
On a first date when you’re not sure if there’s chemistry, go somewhere that won’t turn into a marathon.
Myth: Sushi is a cute date idea.
Fact: I know they did it all the time on “Laguna Beach” but sushi dates can be very hit or miss in terms of cuteness.
Try laughing at your date’s joke while you have an overstuffed sushi roll hanging out of your mouth. Not appealing. Also, I need a remedial class in chopsticks, so that’s always an issue for me.
If you want Asian food without having to commit to sushi, Enso in the EpiCentre is a good bet. You have the sushi option, but I’m also a big fan of their sesame chicken.
Sunday dinner was definitely outstanding tonight! When my brother comes to town, we do #sushi! #clt @EnsoCharlotte pic.twitter.com/VOkqIhm8IZ
— Taralynn McNitt (@TaralynnsTweets) March 30, 2015
Picking a place that plays into both of your interests while allowing you to get some good conversation in is always a win.
Though it won’t make it any less awkward when the check comes and you’re doing the whole “Let’s split it! No I’ve got it!” dance. Sorry.
Photo: John D. Simmons/Charlotte Observer
This story was originally published October 12, 2015 at 12:00 AM with the headline "“Mythbusters”: Charlotte dating edition. 4 myths, debunked."